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Way better than expected 
I was prepared to be unimpressed. I assumed that this book was written solely to capitalize on the current media exposure of the author’s lax parenting, extending her 15 minutes of fame (or infamy). I didn’t expect it to be particularly well written, or well researched. I didn’t expect it to change my parenting style, which is pretty middle-of-the road.
Imagine my surprise when I discovered this book to be well-written, humorous, well organized, mostly supported by data, and include a full bibliography.
Lenore Skenazy presents her viewpoints with a wry sense of humor, sometimes being self-deprecating but more often gently poking fun at helicopter parents. She does a good job of taking a particular topic, weighing the risks to the children and the effectiveness of parental hovering, and delivering a clear decision about the appropriate level of protectiveness. Do we need locks on our toilets? No. Do we need car sets? Yes, yes, of course.
I finished this book in just a few nights’ reading. After finishing it, I still didn’t think it would impact my parenting style, as I already shared many of the author’s viewpoints. The topics that we disagreed on, we’d just have to agree to disagree. But I was amused to find myself giving my kids just a touch more freedom in the weeks after reading this book. Nice job, Ms. Skenazy!
No more Helicopter Parents! 
Child rearing can be a very emotional subject. I agree with the tenets put forth in this book, but it may not be for you.
The basic premise is that 1) Parents today are disproportionally worried about the safety of their children 2) This results in severely restricted freedoms 3) The overall result is that you will drive yourself and your kids nuts, as well as affecting their long term independence and problem solving skills.
Our kids are 1, 3 and 5. I walked a mile, alone, to kindergarten. My wife did the same, yet today we don’t even allow our daughter to walk to the school bus by herself, and it’s at the end of the block!
I heard her on the radio and key points she made is that our parents were watching Marcus Welby, where all the patients lived. We’re watching CSI and Law & Order SVU where you spend an hour peering into the tragic and brutal death of someone at the hands of a war criminal. Our parents watched an hour of news each night - we have 24/7 MSNBC / CNN / Fox where they fill the exra 23 hours with the latest child abduction or molestation.
I can’t say I’d allow my 11 year old kid to ride the NY subway by themselves, but I certainly agree that kids learn the most from independent exploring and the freedom to make their own mistakes. Sweeping a path in front of them wherever they go (Apparently, helicopter parents in Canada are called “Curling Parents”) doesn’t let them learn how to NOT trip on that rock, or how to pick themselves up if they do.
Down-to-earth, well researched/cited, a voice of sanity! 
Ms. Skenazy has a wonderful writer’s ‘voice.’ I read this during my commutes, and she really is laugh-out-loud *funny.* LOL, but also REALLY serious. Seriously. There are many parents in this country (too many) who think they act in the interests of their children by never allowing those kids to *experience life*– basic things like making mistakes, playing outside, getting around even their neighborhood. Or making themselves meals (I was doing my own laundry at 8, cooking dinner for myself after softball practice at 10. Got there & back by myself too.) Family ties are important, but so is developing self-reliance and independence. You just can’t acquire these skills in a classroom, or from anyone else. You HAVE to get out and acquire experience.
While the small fry isn’t old enough to benefit from this philosophy yet (aside from having to climb up on the couches himself, which he can do, and no, I’m not helping ’cause he needs to learn things himself), I agreed with Skenazy’s viewpoint. While modern media may be good for some things, it has become rather too good at filling people with fear– to generate viewers and rating. It isn’t good. (Disclosure: I do not have digital tvs, converter boxes, cable, satellite. And don’t miss any of it.)
So take a deep breath, calm down, and allow kids room to be kids doing kid things. Granted there are still neighborhoods in the US where tossing them outside to play isn’t an option, to our disgrace. But that is NOT the case for most of America. Give kids some space, and watch them blossom. They have to learn how to live in the world.
Oh, and while you are at it, parents, PLEASE teach them politeness and manners. Its good for them to think about other people, not just themselves.
Hilarious Read! 
Provide our kids some of that freedom and independence that we enjoyed in your childhood. It talks about everything that my parents can not relate to; from great fear of abduction, candy poisoning at halloween to every little thing we try to control about our children life. AND THIS BOOK IS DANGEROUSLY HILARIOUS!
Book will help you ignore the experts, blamers, media, etc when you find yourself under pressure of what others think of your parenting. Not every small decision you make have long term impact on children’s development. Lenore advices to relax! Let the children walk to school, play outside, talk to strangers! Child safety gadgets and warnings - oh, so many of them! Lenore goes through all of them from plastic bags to child knee pads…
Easy, enjoyable read 
This book was an easy read, like reading a blog. The author’s humor (which she injects quite, quite frequently) at times made me laugh out loud, and other times made me just groan/roll my eyes.
The subject, Free-Range kids, was one I had not heard of or read of before. How refreshing!! I can’t believe that it’s not talked about more these days. I think I’m pretty good about not being a ‘helicopter’ over-protective parent (no knee pads or kid leashes) but she brought up some areas I hadn’t consdiered…for instance, why it was okay for me at the age of 12 to babysit, but how I’d gasp at the thought of leaving my babies with a 12 year old.
I disagreed with some of her stances on parenting. One whole chapter is based on her idea that our culture is obsessed with parenting and that she feels our choices don’t impact our kids all that much. She also dismisses the idea that breastfeeding is the better choice.. she even comments that breastfed babies are often lower in Vitamin D.. I just find it hard to argue that overall breastfeeding isn’t the best choice(even formula cans state breast IS best).
Personally, I wish she would’ve taken this chapter a different direction and tackled controversial topics like co-sleeping, which is practiced in many, many cultures (she compares our hands on parenting to other culture’s hands off) in a safe and healthy way.
Anyway, other than some of the child rearing opinions and overkill blog style humore, I really enjoyed this book and the subject as a whole.